Dating an older married man

Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.The love of your life just might be a married man." Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know. And you’ll definitely never see him on birthdays and Christmas. You will tire of hearing ‘if only I’d met you 10 years ago.’ 9.

The married man may fulfill you in ways other men have not.He may also be more adventurous than your spouse or other men you have dated.Her close circle of friends might know about her affair, but she really cannot let anyone else, such as colleagues or her family, know.She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together. Whatever the reason it’s unlikely that there will be a happy ever after as you’ll never ever be able to trust him.

Regardless of your feelings about affairs, the fact is there are some benefits to cheating.

In many ways they can seem more mature, attractive and have their lives more together than their shambolic single counterparts. Too many nights of looking stunning in your new outfit only to be admired by the cat as you’re let down yet again. In the unlikely event of being seen out anywhere by anyone he knows, you will be introduced as his niece/ cousin/ babysitter. If he has kids it’s highly unlikely he wants more, even though your imagination is working overtime dreaming of your own little family together. You can never just phone him when you’re having a bad day.

And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth.

Whatever the situation is, you are likely to have some great sex with a married man, even if most of the excitement comes from the possibility of being caught.

One of the most exciting times in a relationship is at the beginning.

No matter what side of the fence you’re on both can agree that this is a very controversial and moralistically sensitive topic. The touch of a hand, an innocent conversation, a glance?