Dating with privileges

Your health insurance rates are not higher than everyone else’s. You can expect to pay reasonable prices for your clothing. You can expect to find your clothing size sold locally. You can expect to find clothing in the latest styles and colors instead of colorless, shapeless and outdated styles meant to hide your body. You don’t receive suggestions from your friends and family to join Weight Watchers or any other weight-loss program. When you go to the doctor, they don’t suspect diabetes (or high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or other “weight-related” diagnoses) as the first/most likely diagnosis. You don’t get told, “You have such a pretty/handsome face” (implying: if only you’d lose weight you could be even more attractive). People do not assume that you are lazy, based solely on your size. You’re not the brunt of jokes for countless numbers of comedians. People don’t ask your partners what it’s like to have sex with you because of your size.

And then to lose the weight, she ate “what felt natural” (1500 calories a day which science tells us is not enough) and walking 20k steps a day.

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Source: Shutterstock What are some expectations we place on our boyfriends or male companions in a relationship? Why do some of us expect husband privileges from men we simply deem as boyfriends?

In dating relationships, many women often confuse the role of a boyfriend with that of a husband.

These two definitions clearly show the difference in both roles, so why is it that many women often expect more from a boyfriend than they should? Many women expect husband privileges from boyfriends because we husband privileges to our boyfriends in hopes of securing a long-term relationship with the possibility of marriage. Giving husband privileges to boyfriends and expecting husband privileges in return takes away the fun in a dating relationship and places unnecessary pressure on both parties involved. Because it takes the focus off of getting to know someone for who they are and places it on what they can bring to a relationship other than themselves.

Now don’t get me wrong, a person should know as much about someone they are dating from every aspect to see if they are the one for them, but the expectations of a boyfriend in a dating or monogamous relationship should remain sensible and simple…expecting him to be your boyfriend and do the things a boyfriend should, and not expecting things from him that you would ask of a husband.

Through mass media, we’ve been bombarded with messages that the “normal” size is actually thin.

And this assumption that you need to be thin in order to be okay and normal gets played out frequently for people who are bigger than “normal”.

Rebecca Plante, an associate professor at Ithaca College, has specialized in research on casual relationships, and says that this type of relationship can be beneficial. "Eros" lovers are lovers that are often struck by "Cupid's Arrow".

Casual relationships can establish a "healthy outlet for sexual needs and desires." J. They often fall head over heels at the first sight of a potential relationship.

It’s time we make this “ism” unacceptable, and thus make the world a better place to live in for people of all shapes and sizes. You are not perceived as looking sloppy or unprofessional based on your size. You can eat what you want, when you want in public and not have others judge you for it or make assumptions about your eating habits. You can walk out of a gas station with a box of doughnuts and not have people yell at you to “Lay off them doughnuts, fatty! You’re more likely to get a raise or promotion at work than someone who is fat. Friends don’t describe you to others using a qualifier (e.g. Shannon Ridgway is from the great flyover state of South Dakota (the one with the monument of presidential heads).

The following are examples of thin privilege that those of us who are seen by society as being physically “too big” experience regularly in our lives. You’re not assumed to be unhealthy just because of your size. Your size is probably not the first thing people notice about you (unless you’re being thin-shamed – the opposite of fat-shamed). When you’re at the grocery store, people don’t comment on the food selection in your cart in the name of “trying to be helpful.” 4. ” (This actually happened to one of my friends.) 17. In her free time, Shannon enjoys reading, writing, jamming out to ’80s music and Zumba, and she will go to great lengths to find the perfect enchilada.

This is done more often than not because a number of women don’t realize the difference in the roles.