Dates are very much taboo to them when I bring them up in conversations.
They are both inevitable parts of life that everyone has to deal with.
It doesn’t matter how beautiful, smart, funny, charming, or awesome you are, there will be times when you meet people who just don’t see it.
We bonded over shared interests in comedians and books; we talked regularly and hung out often. I politely rejected his advances and asked if we could still be friends.
He told me, “Of course.”We stayed friends; we still talked.
(Being honest though, I did dress a little metrosexual back then.) I tried to hold my ground and replied, “Damn right I do.” She snickered and in an exaggerated tone said, “Suuure you do. Instead, I walked away with my fists clenched and left to another bar.
And it wasn’t in a playful, challenging kind of way. I wanted to say something that made her feel like shit — just like I did.Than, one day, a bomb dropped on my lap while having a talk with one of my mentees. “Kerry, how do you expect ME to be successful in a relationship when you, my mentor, are single?” I had the biggest lump in my throat for the next few seconds.If I could write a note to my younger self it would be: “Don’t take it all so personally.You’re wonderful, and if someone else doesn’t see it, let that be their problem, not yours.” Unfortunately, my younger self didn’t get the memo and any type of rejection (especially from the opposite sex) would wreak havoc on my self-esteem.He was one of my close confidants; I told him things because I trusted him.